see my current bf cheated on me when we first got together and 2 years later I ran into my ex, and we ended up kissing although I didn't see nor talk to him after. I never told my bf and he just found out 6 months ago, as it could get any worse he ended up running into him a week later with his friend. So with that he was pretty pissed even though he still talked to him, and my ex told him to tell me Hi, making him more mad not towards him, towards me because he told me what happen when he got home. Any how so my friends daughter bday's coming up and I know he will be there, and I'm kind of not sure on how to act because I think my ex might try talking to me, and I don't wanna be mean, but I also don't want to upset my bf. Any advice????Any Advice..HELP.... So I am going to this b day party with my bf %26amp; our daughter, however my ex will be there?
The easiest solution would be to not attend the party, and just send a nice gift.
The next solution would be to deal with awkwardness maturely and honestly. Tell your boyfriend now that your ex will be at the party, and that neither of you want to deal with him, so you will agree to politely say hi and then ignore him.
Remember, this party is not about the three of you - it's about a little girl's birthday. If you can't avoid an unpleasant scene, then leave. Stay by your boyfriend and do not talk alone with your ex. If your ex insists on talking to you, clearly tell him that he has been the source of enough trouble in your relationship, and you don't want to talk to him again, and it's not fair for any of you to cause a scene at someone else's party.
Friday, April 30, 2010
*sigh* advice/help again?
here's what's up this time. i need advice on what to do or say if my parents were to find out about my beliefs, how they contradict theirs and the way i was raised, totally. should i stic up for myself? deny it (not really gonna work though) or... what?
Because you see, for some unknown reason, they went through my room and raided it...
so..i know they will try to make me feel guilty, and i really havent been standing up for myself to them at all. the past few years i've really let them walk all over me. and now they are very egotistical and authorative.. while i've sort of assumed the weaker role.
Soo...any advice?
Thanks you guys.*sigh* advice/help again?
You have the ability to see things differently. Try using the situation as spiritual practice. What they seem to be doing is not respecting your right to make choices that only you can make for you. They are not respecting your right to privacy. But you already know this, right? The problem is as soon as you react, lose your peace, lose your calm you add to the dysfunction of the situation. Then the real issue becomes clouded and you give your real power away.
Don't feel bad, some of us are still dealing with the same kinds of issues years and years later. It sounds harsh but you have to be the adult in this situation. If you can remain calm when you speak with them and speak your peace gently it can go a long way towards you regaining the power in this situation. Statements like : ';I'm sorry you feel that way..'; and ';I can see your point of view but..'; and ';I love you, and I can see you are upset but ....'; and ';I have nothing to hide but I still feel upset you don't trust me...'; go a long way towards regaining your power. As does remaining calm and forgiving them.
Part of being a loving parent means letting go - and it is one of the most fearful things I have ever faced. They have certain designs for your future that don't fit in with your own designs. This situation took years and years coming about and don't be worried if it takes some time to regain your rightful ground. Small gains often are better then bitter conflict which escalates to the point where everyone gets dragged into the drama.
Good luck, try not to get drawn onto the battle ground of their choice. Its going to be fine because you know that your peace can never be really moved. Look for the blessings - there are always many hidden gifts in any situation.
you are wonderful - its going to all work out fine.*sigh* advice/help again?
hi. trust me, i have the same issue, i am a big believer in all this mind power sort of religion (like buddhism) and my dad is very, very catholic, and my mum believes that she has to see it to believe it, and wont believe anything else. So its frustrating when i try to bring it up with her.
i think u should stick up for it (if they ask), but dont act like it is a huge deal-let them no that you believe in different things, but it doesnt mean you are any less of a person.
and then u shouldnt really bring it up-they have their beliefs, u have urs, and that is that.
its not a huge deal, and so long as your beliefs and theirs arent drastic, and causing impossible living conditions, then it doesnt really matter
x
If you are not first TRUE to yourself - how can you be true to anyone else?
When it comes up, speak softly and calmly to them, tell them you LOVE them, and want them to be true to themselves.
Tell them that you also have the right to be true to yourself. Ask them if it was their intention to raise you as a liar? Or was it to raise you to tell the truth?
peacefromken.
Honest communication, ability to be assertive without hurting others, without being aggressive or submissive (but assertive) will sort out the issue. Respect/regard others views as they are without comments and at the same time express yours and tell them you expect the same!
hunny...
follow your heart, follow love, follow truth, be authentic. denying oneself has never ever led anyone to happiness until now... even jesus is teaching this (in different words maybe)...
I am sorry to hear that you are having such troubles. I am not be the best person to give advise, so feel free to ignore it.
While i am not a fundamentalist christian (or even a christian by the common definition) i do think there are some truths in the Bible. Perhaps it is this alieness of your ideas that frightens them. So perhaps you can formulate a Biblical way of expressing your beliefs. By finding Bible quotes that you can use to express your ideas. This way your ideas will seem less alien to them.
Since i do not know your exact beliefs I cannot give any examples.
I do think you should keep calm and try to find some way of enlightening your parents to your own spirituality. This way it is an exercise in patience, understanding and love. When you see it in this way you will not be worn down by your parents nor will you be driven away. Instead it will become a spiritual practise that helps you and in future helps others.
here is a story that you may find helpful.
http://www.new-mind.com/Library/carroteg鈥?/a>
I hope you find a solution to your problem.
_()_
well if you are living under their roof, sometimes it sucks but there's that saying, 'my roof, my rules'
so if you disagree with what they are saying or doing sometimes it's ok to disagree and talk about it but ultimately it's their place
should you stand up for yourself? i think absolutely!
but you didn't say what those beliefs are
if you think you should have the right to do drugs in their house, they probably don't think you do
and they may very well get ur butt hauled off to jail
so i think you need to strike a balance with them
* depending on the issue *
likewise they need to give a little as well
that's what this wacky life of ourse is all about
give a little get a little
good luck
Hello, well I know I dont know u and im not in your inner circle but I have little piece of advice. First and foremost they say if you look especially too hard for something...you'll find it! Your parents should be understanding in the fact that they raised and grounded you in their beliefs and you turned out as you did due to that. However, once you've become of age or an ';adult'; then they should know that your gonna go your own way and see what else there is to see. They have to let you see if you can find something else that better fits you and your lifestyle. That will in turn also make u a well rounded person because you have their views instilled in you as well as discovering what else there is to be discovered in this world...they cant keep you sheltered forever!! So you definitely have to stand up for yourself and what u believe is right in a very respectful manner because ultimately they are your parents and you are living in their house. As I said I dont know you nor your folks but they may be the type that are set in their ways...no disrespect but i know u heard the saying ';you cant teach a old dog new tricks'; so you have to know the difference if its even possible for them to understand where youre coming from. I still say voice your opinion...thats just me, but if they get into that laying hands and restraining and carrying on your decision is based on are you willing to endure such behavior to stand up for what u believe in! Otherwise you may just have to deal with it til you move out on your own! (it sucks but...thats a part of life) hopefully you find somethin I said useful...good luck!! :)
Sweetheart,
Try to stay the lovely soft person that you are. Tell them that you love them.
It's hard to break a dominating egotistical stance by standing against them...from my experience it just makes things worse.
In your heart you know that you are a seeker. Stay true to yourself but treat the whole thing lightly with them.
Try to keep the lines of communication open on all the other issues of your lives together.
It's not easy is it? Specially if they are continually lecturing you. I think you just have to stay detached and let it run over you like the water of a stream.
Somehow your love should find a way.
Love is very powerful.
they only have authority over you if you let them. just put on an act like you agree with everything they say, make it look real and humour them, get them off your back and you go about your business happily and so do they. so who's in control then? think about it. if you wanna beat ignorance, you gotta be smarter than it. it's not about fighting it, because that's what it wants. it's about beating it. and you can beat it by not fighting it a lot better. if you oppose, you give it reason to attack. if you don't.... makee sensee to yoo?
Because you see, for some unknown reason, they went through my room and raided it...
so..i know they will try to make me feel guilty, and i really havent been standing up for myself to them at all. the past few years i've really let them walk all over me. and now they are very egotistical and authorative.. while i've sort of assumed the weaker role.
Soo...any advice?
Thanks you guys.*sigh* advice/help again?
You have the ability to see things differently. Try using the situation as spiritual practice. What they seem to be doing is not respecting your right to make choices that only you can make for you. They are not respecting your right to privacy. But you already know this, right? The problem is as soon as you react, lose your peace, lose your calm you add to the dysfunction of the situation. Then the real issue becomes clouded and you give your real power away.
Don't feel bad, some of us are still dealing with the same kinds of issues years and years later. It sounds harsh but you have to be the adult in this situation. If you can remain calm when you speak with them and speak your peace gently it can go a long way towards you regaining the power in this situation. Statements like : ';I'm sorry you feel that way..'; and ';I can see your point of view but..'; and ';I love you, and I can see you are upset but ....'; and ';I have nothing to hide but I still feel upset you don't trust me...'; go a long way towards regaining your power. As does remaining calm and forgiving them.
Part of being a loving parent means letting go - and it is one of the most fearful things I have ever faced. They have certain designs for your future that don't fit in with your own designs. This situation took years and years coming about and don't be worried if it takes some time to regain your rightful ground. Small gains often are better then bitter conflict which escalates to the point where everyone gets dragged into the drama.
Good luck, try not to get drawn onto the battle ground of their choice. Its going to be fine because you know that your peace can never be really moved. Look for the blessings - there are always many hidden gifts in any situation.
you are wonderful - its going to all work out fine.*sigh* advice/help again?
hi. trust me, i have the same issue, i am a big believer in all this mind power sort of religion (like buddhism) and my dad is very, very catholic, and my mum believes that she has to see it to believe it, and wont believe anything else. So its frustrating when i try to bring it up with her.
i think u should stick up for it (if they ask), but dont act like it is a huge deal-let them no that you believe in different things, but it doesnt mean you are any less of a person.
and then u shouldnt really bring it up-they have their beliefs, u have urs, and that is that.
its not a huge deal, and so long as your beliefs and theirs arent drastic, and causing impossible living conditions, then it doesnt really matter
x
If you are not first TRUE to yourself - how can you be true to anyone else?
When it comes up, speak softly and calmly to them, tell them you LOVE them, and want them to be true to themselves.
Tell them that you also have the right to be true to yourself. Ask them if it was their intention to raise you as a liar? Or was it to raise you to tell the truth?
peacefromken.
Honest communication, ability to be assertive without hurting others, without being aggressive or submissive (but assertive) will sort out the issue. Respect/regard others views as they are without comments and at the same time express yours and tell them you expect the same!
hunny...
follow your heart, follow love, follow truth, be authentic. denying oneself has never ever led anyone to happiness until now... even jesus is teaching this (in different words maybe)...
I am sorry to hear that you are having such troubles. I am not be the best person to give advise, so feel free to ignore it.
While i am not a fundamentalist christian (or even a christian by the common definition) i do think there are some truths in the Bible. Perhaps it is this alieness of your ideas that frightens them. So perhaps you can formulate a Biblical way of expressing your beliefs. By finding Bible quotes that you can use to express your ideas. This way your ideas will seem less alien to them.
Since i do not know your exact beliefs I cannot give any examples.
I do think you should keep calm and try to find some way of enlightening your parents to your own spirituality. This way it is an exercise in patience, understanding and love. When you see it in this way you will not be worn down by your parents nor will you be driven away. Instead it will become a spiritual practise that helps you and in future helps others.
here is a story that you may find helpful.
http://www.new-mind.com/Library/carroteg鈥?/a>
I hope you find a solution to your problem.
_()_
well if you are living under their roof, sometimes it sucks but there's that saying, 'my roof, my rules'
so if you disagree with what they are saying or doing sometimes it's ok to disagree and talk about it but ultimately it's their place
should you stand up for yourself? i think absolutely!
but you didn't say what those beliefs are
if you think you should have the right to do drugs in their house, they probably don't think you do
and they may very well get ur butt hauled off to jail
so i think you need to strike a balance with them
* depending on the issue *
likewise they need to give a little as well
that's what this wacky life of ourse is all about
give a little get a little
good luck
Hello, well I know I dont know u and im not in your inner circle but I have little piece of advice. First and foremost they say if you look especially too hard for something...you'll find it! Your parents should be understanding in the fact that they raised and grounded you in their beliefs and you turned out as you did due to that. However, once you've become of age or an ';adult'; then they should know that your gonna go your own way and see what else there is to see. They have to let you see if you can find something else that better fits you and your lifestyle. That will in turn also make u a well rounded person because you have their views instilled in you as well as discovering what else there is to be discovered in this world...they cant keep you sheltered forever!! So you definitely have to stand up for yourself and what u believe is right in a very respectful manner because ultimately they are your parents and you are living in their house. As I said I dont know you nor your folks but they may be the type that are set in their ways...no disrespect but i know u heard the saying ';you cant teach a old dog new tricks'; so you have to know the difference if its even possible for them to understand where youre coming from. I still say voice your opinion...thats just me, but if they get into that laying hands and restraining and carrying on your decision is based on are you willing to endure such behavior to stand up for what u believe in! Otherwise you may just have to deal with it til you move out on your own! (it sucks but...thats a part of life) hopefully you find somethin I said useful...good luck!! :)
Sweetheart,
Try to stay the lovely soft person that you are. Tell them that you love them.
It's hard to break a dominating egotistical stance by standing against them...from my experience it just makes things worse.
In your heart you know that you are a seeker. Stay true to yourself but treat the whole thing lightly with them.
Try to keep the lines of communication open on all the other issues of your lives together.
It's not easy is it? Specially if they are continually lecturing you. I think you just have to stay detached and let it run over you like the water of a stream.
Somehow your love should find a way.
Love is very powerful.
they only have authority over you if you let them. just put on an act like you agree with everything they say, make it look real and humour them, get them off your back and you go about your business happily and so do they. so who's in control then? think about it. if you wanna beat ignorance, you gotta be smarter than it. it's not about fighting it, because that's what it wants. it's about beating it. and you can beat it by not fighting it a lot better. if you oppose, you give it reason to attack. if you don't.... makee sensee to yoo?
Need advice! help anyone can answer?
I'm in love with this guy who broke up with me 6 mo. ago. I never got to tell him how i felt about what he did. now i want to go to him %26amp; look at him to see if i still have feelings for him. also to tell him that all he did was lie, used me for his own agenda when he was done using me he through me away like trash. he says he hopes to be friends again soon, but he been saying that for months now but when he sees me treats me like i'm invisible. do you think it would be a good idea to confront him %26amp; tell him what i really think of him. because i need to move on %26amp; i can't until i talk to him %26amp; tell him what a cold hearted baste rd he really is.Need advice! help anyone can answer?
Move onNeed advice! help anyone can answer?
You must tell him that he's wrong with a smooth way, if you get an answer in the end that's fine but if he refuses you don't need him anymore, but if you want to return to him that's okay but you should be more careful, because maybe he will do the same thing to you again. Hope you'll go fine together.
just write him a letter and then move on
don't be like a moth to a flame
more importantly, don't take your bitterness into a new relationship- bury it and forget (and forgive!)
It seems like you need to try and move on if he hurt you.
There are plenty of fish in the sea
I'm still waiting too
you'll find another guy soon, and he'll be better than that boy ever was.
this might sound weird but write him a letter and tell him everything then burn it. i did that with my ex and it gave me closure without confrontation. i don't like confrontations i'm not that good at it.
You need to move on. Go grab him and tell him what you think! He was your boyfriend once, you have the right to speak to him.
When you've spoke to him, move on.
if he wuz f*ed up to do something to u like that i don't think he's really going to take into consideration what ever you tell him i think u would just b waisting ur words but u could still tell him.....in my case my x girlfriend f*ed up on me....
Don't tell him he ruined your world, simply find a loving man who'll build you a new one.
helloooooo!
I'm kind of going through guy problems as well, so I know how you feel : (
First off, I'm sorry about what happened, and I know how hard it can be to move on :] In my opinion, I think you shud talk to him about it. I had feelings for a guy even after he rejected me, and i got so depressed trying to pretend like it was okay. Seriously, i lost 3 kgs in 2 weeks cuz i was too depressed to eat and i couldnt do anything but sleep!
But then i got the balls to go talk to him, and im not a hundred percent over him yet, but im getting there, and at least im eating normally and stuff.
I think that, as long as he's not a violent kind of guy, you shud talk to him, on the phone even if you're too shy to talk to him in person. Tell him what's up with you, and then that'll help get over everything :]
I hope you get over it soon! Remember, eat healthy and don't hurt yourself, okay?
Move onNeed advice! help anyone can answer?
You must tell him that he's wrong with a smooth way, if you get an answer in the end that's fine but if he refuses you don't need him anymore, but if you want to return to him that's okay but you should be more careful, because maybe he will do the same thing to you again. Hope you'll go fine together.
just write him a letter and then move on
don't be like a moth to a flame
more importantly, don't take your bitterness into a new relationship- bury it and forget (and forgive!)
It seems like you need to try and move on if he hurt you.
There are plenty of fish in the sea
I'm still waiting too
you'll find another guy soon, and he'll be better than that boy ever was.
this might sound weird but write him a letter and tell him everything then burn it. i did that with my ex and it gave me closure without confrontation. i don't like confrontations i'm not that good at it.
You need to move on. Go grab him and tell him what you think! He was your boyfriend once, you have the right to speak to him.
When you've spoke to him, move on.
if he wuz f*ed up to do something to u like that i don't think he's really going to take into consideration what ever you tell him i think u would just b waisting ur words but u could still tell him.....in my case my x girlfriend f*ed up on me....
Don't tell him he ruined your world, simply find a loving man who'll build you a new one.
helloooooo!
I'm kind of going through guy problems as well, so I know how you feel : (
First off, I'm sorry about what happened, and I know how hard it can be to move on :] In my opinion, I think you shud talk to him about it. I had feelings for a guy even after he rejected me, and i got so depressed trying to pretend like it was okay. Seriously, i lost 3 kgs in 2 weeks cuz i was too depressed to eat and i couldnt do anything but sleep!
But then i got the balls to go talk to him, and im not a hundred percent over him yet, but im getting there, and at least im eating normally and stuff.
I think that, as long as he's not a violent kind of guy, you shud talk to him, on the phone even if you're too shy to talk to him in person. Tell him what's up with you, and then that'll help get over everything :]
I hope you get over it soon! Remember, eat healthy and don't hurt yourself, okay?
Relationship Advice.. help me out?
AAH! Okay. I am a 23 yr old female who has been cheated on ALOT. I am now in a relationship with a man and things we're going great until that little voice inside said.. ';something isnt right, check his phone'; lol.. so I did. I found dirty text messages to a few girls.. we fought, screamed, cried, argued.. and eventually decided that it would stop right there and we would keep moving forward in the relat. So.. a few weeks later I do it again.. (I have trust issues, this i know) and I see a text saying ';If I didnt have a girlfriend, I would totally date her'; Talking about some girl from the internet. When questioned he said.. ';I did the right thing by saying I had a girlfriend, we were just gonna be friends after i told her that, and we're supposed to get coffee tuesday'; I said hell no to the coffee.. thats wrong blahblah.. Am I crazy for staying? Am I crazy because I'm letting trust issues get the best of me?!? HELPRelationship Advice.. help me out?
I would move on, Its one thing for a guy to be stupid and make a mistake cause they all do, but to meet the girl online and schedule a date for coffee? That is complete bs. He is not interested in helping you with your issues with trust, he sounds like a little boy who needs to grow up.Relationship Advice.. help me out?
you are going a little to far... if every guy you have been with cheated on you...mayb theres something wrong with you....maybe the trust issues push them away...talk to a counsler or something like that it may show you some insite to your problems...
It seems like the one you are with is not helping your trust issues because he continues to give you reasons not to trust him, it would be better to cut your loses. Find some one who will help your trust issues.
Yes you are CRAZY for staying. I'm OK with my partner having friends of the opposite sex...as long as they knew them before me -but even then I don't want them hanging out with them when I'm not around and i want to meet them if they are that much of a friend...however, you don't meet someone new - especially from the Internet when you are in a relationship....on the premises you are going to be just friends. I also agree with you on the coffee issue. You may really want to think about moving on...if he is still doing this and knows how you feel....then he's not the one for you -sorry
If you continue to allow him to treat you this way....he will sweetheart.
I would move on, Its one thing for a guy to be stupid and make a mistake cause they all do, but to meet the girl online and schedule a date for coffee? That is complete bs. He is not interested in helping you with your issues with trust, he sounds like a little boy who needs to grow up.Relationship Advice.. help me out?
you are going a little to far... if every guy you have been with cheated on you...mayb theres something wrong with you....maybe the trust issues push them away...talk to a counsler or something like that it may show you some insite to your problems...
It seems like the one you are with is not helping your trust issues because he continues to give you reasons not to trust him, it would be better to cut your loses. Find some one who will help your trust issues.
Yes you are CRAZY for staying. I'm OK with my partner having friends of the opposite sex...as long as they knew them before me -but even then I don't want them hanging out with them when I'm not around and i want to meet them if they are that much of a friend...however, you don't meet someone new - especially from the Internet when you are in a relationship....on the premises you are going to be just friends. I also agree with you on the coffee issue. You may really want to think about moving on...if he is still doing this and knows how you feel....then he's not the one for you -sorry
If you continue to allow him to treat you this way....he will sweetheart.
I really need advice/help?
me and this girl really like each other a lot. She doesnt want to go out with me because her mom doesnt want her dating and she doesnt want to go behind her moms back. What should we do?I really need advice/help?
I think for now you should just maintain a beautiful friendship with her, most likely she'll get tired of waiting for her mom to let her start dating and start a relationship with you! Good luck!
ps. I love cheese too^^I really need advice/help?
well I go behind my mom's back because I asked her
would you rather let me have boyfriends and tell u about it or go behind ur back and hide it, and she said neither, but i went with number 2 but i feel bad sometimes, so i understand where she is coming from, and show her mom that ur not like other guys (trying to get a girl because there hot) but show her that you really are into her and u really want her because of her personality. or ask her if she can talk to her mom about it, because dating is life, and the more experience u have, the more you will pick out your partner in life better ,
How old is the girl you like?
If she's 18 or older than her mother can't stop you, but if she's a minor and you REALLY love her, than you'll wait for her =]]
I think in that case you should let other people know that neither of you are available, even if you aren't dating yet.
Good luck!
you should respect her mother's rules. In the mean time keep being her friend when her mother if comfortable seeing you and hearing your name perhaps she would be willing to hang out with the two of you for a while until you two can go some where together without her.
Wow. This is abit tough. I suggest you give her mom an impact change. Trying visiting her place so as you could get along with her mom and get to know you more. Her mom will soon allow you to bring her daughter out if she is satisfied with you overall performance.
AGML
You have your answer. If she doesn't want to sneak around behind her mom's back, then what options do you have?
You could try talking to her mother, but honestly she might not take the plight of a teenage seriously.
EITHER
talk to her mom,
if yur uncomfterble askin her bout datin her daughter
then just ask yur ';girl'; to invite yu and a bunch of friends over one day so yu can work yur charm.
OR
secracy,
it can work very well... until a point.
Don't date. Simple. Her mom probably believes her to be to young to date she is probably correct. Never go behind a mom's back it won't end well for you.
im in the same boat no BS.Me and her keep talking to each other but we do go behind her mom and dads backs but if your girl dont want to and if u like her a lot just wait 4 her.
Show her mom and that you are not a jerk and try to make it officiallesbians lipstick
I think for now you should just maintain a beautiful friendship with her, most likely she'll get tired of waiting for her mom to let her start dating and start a relationship with you! Good luck!
ps. I love cheese too^^I really need advice/help?
well I go behind my mom's back because I asked her
would you rather let me have boyfriends and tell u about it or go behind ur back and hide it, and she said neither, but i went with number 2 but i feel bad sometimes, so i understand where she is coming from, and show her mom that ur not like other guys (trying to get a girl because there hot) but show her that you really are into her and u really want her because of her personality. or ask her if she can talk to her mom about it, because dating is life, and the more experience u have, the more you will pick out your partner in life better ,
How old is the girl you like?
If she's 18 or older than her mother can't stop you, but if she's a minor and you REALLY love her, than you'll wait for her =]]
I think in that case you should let other people know that neither of you are available, even if you aren't dating yet.
Good luck!
you should respect her mother's rules. In the mean time keep being her friend when her mother if comfortable seeing you and hearing your name perhaps she would be willing to hang out with the two of you for a while until you two can go some where together without her.
Wow. This is abit tough. I suggest you give her mom an impact change. Trying visiting her place so as you could get along with her mom and get to know you more. Her mom will soon allow you to bring her daughter out if she is satisfied with you overall performance.
AGML
You have your answer. If she doesn't want to sneak around behind her mom's back, then what options do you have?
You could try talking to her mother, but honestly she might not take the plight of a teenage seriously.
EITHER
talk to her mom,
if yur uncomfterble askin her bout datin her daughter
then just ask yur ';girl'; to invite yu and a bunch of friends over one day so yu can work yur charm.
OR
secracy,
it can work very well... until a point.
Don't date. Simple. Her mom probably believes her to be to young to date she is probably correct. Never go behind a mom's back it won't end well for you.
im in the same boat no BS.Me and her keep talking to each other but we do go behind her mom and dads backs but if your girl dont want to and if u like her a lot just wait 4 her.
Show her mom and that you are not a jerk and try to make it official
I need friend advice HELP!!?
my best friend dumped my other friend and my other friend doesn't want me to take sides so I don't know what to do. I need help.I need friend advice HELP!!?
You need to take a step back let them figure out what they need to do to clear things up between them. All your going to do is just get stuck in the middle.I need friend advice HELP!!?
Let both of them know that just because you are friends with both of them doesn't mean that they have to be friends with each other.
you can still hang out with both of them. just on different days
My advice to u is to jus remain neutral, don't take sides just listen to both. Maybe you can be the voice of reason to end their silly disagreement
Don't talk to either one about the relationship which will ease your stress level and you'll not be taking sides. It can be done to keep their friendships even though they don't want to stay friends.
The advice i give to you is just dont take anybodys side and just back off its their problem not yours still be friends wiht both listen to both of them dont go tell the other person wat they said keep it to your self.
Maybe you should plan a meeting and invite both of them but don't let them know they're both gonna be there:(hehe. Then they could deal things out.
what i would do is trust my feelings and which ever freind you are closer to i would be with.
act like you never knew what happened
and you will eventually forget everything
brainwash your self
thats what i do
i even forget what and who i email sometimes
get them together tell them this fight is stupid and childish and it's teairing people apart you guys need to make up can't we be friends again that how i got macy and peggy back to being friends. hoped this helped
Just try being friends with both of them. Explain to both of them that you like each of them and want to stay friends with them.
It isn't fair for them to ask you to take sides, especially if you have been friends with them both.
Don't do it. Just stay out of it. Ask both of them not to discuss the issue with you.
Neither of them should ask your advice on the situation and you shouldn't offer your opinion, either.
Hopefully, they will work it out on their own. In the mean time, you'll have to be careful not to offend either one of them. Try to spend equal time, so you don't upset one or the other, or...if you are feeling torn, take a break from both of them!
i have been where you are now but in the end it did not work out for me, hopefully it will for you. first i would see if i could mend the fences back together between them but if not then i would sit them both down (separately of course) and explain to them that you love them both and you want to be friends with them both. and they should not ask you nor demand you to break your friendship with either of them b/c it's not fair concerning you. if that doesn't work as them to put themselves in your shoes.
You need to take a step back let them figure out what they need to do to clear things up between them. All your going to do is just get stuck in the middle.I need friend advice HELP!!?
Let both of them know that just because you are friends with both of them doesn't mean that they have to be friends with each other.
you can still hang out with both of them. just on different days
My advice to u is to jus remain neutral, don't take sides just listen to both. Maybe you can be the voice of reason to end their silly disagreement
Don't talk to either one about the relationship which will ease your stress level and you'll not be taking sides. It can be done to keep their friendships even though they don't want to stay friends.
The advice i give to you is just dont take anybodys side and just back off its their problem not yours still be friends wiht both listen to both of them dont go tell the other person wat they said keep it to your self.
Maybe you should plan a meeting and invite both of them but don't let them know they're both gonna be there:(hehe. Then they could deal things out.
what i would do is trust my feelings and which ever freind you are closer to i would be with.
act like you never knew what happened
and you will eventually forget everything
brainwash your self
thats what i do
i even forget what and who i email sometimes
get them together tell them this fight is stupid and childish and it's teairing people apart you guys need to make up can't we be friends again that how i got macy and peggy back to being friends. hoped this helped
Just try being friends with both of them. Explain to both of them that you like each of them and want to stay friends with them.
It isn't fair for them to ask you to take sides, especially if you have been friends with them both.
Don't do it. Just stay out of it. Ask both of them not to discuss the issue with you.
Neither of them should ask your advice on the situation and you shouldn't offer your opinion, either.
Hopefully, they will work it out on their own. In the mean time, you'll have to be careful not to offend either one of them. Try to spend equal time, so you don't upset one or the other, or...if you are feeling torn, take a break from both of them!
i have been where you are now but in the end it did not work out for me, hopefully it will for you. first i would see if i could mend the fences back together between them but if not then i would sit them both down (separately of course) and explain to them that you love them both and you want to be friends with them both. and they should not ask you nor demand you to break your friendship with either of them b/c it's not fair concerning you. if that doesn't work as them to put themselves in your shoes.
Need some dating advice? help. im new at this?
ok so i flirt with this girl and she does with me too
this has gone on since last year
this year, i have hinted to her twice that i wanted a relationship and she just responds with lame jokes
i even asked to go do something together with me and she just responded with some joke
i like her but if she can't be serious when I am, then I'll might get turned offNeed some dating advice? help. im new at this?
maybe shes not intrested in you but just likes to flirt some girls are like that you know don't waste your time dude.Need some dating advice? help. im new at this?
well its one of two things. One. She likes you but shes nervous and maybe she wants you to ask her in a more endearing way. Two. This one is more likely, she thinks of you as a friend and she doesnt realize her flirting, which most young teens dont (14-16), and when you ask her out she doesnt want to hurt your feelings so she responds with a light-hearted joke. sorry dude, but thats the way it seems...
u dont tell a girl you want a relationship....u ask her out to do something....the relationship comment may have ruined a few things...
if she keeps jokein she might not like you sweetie
best of luck xx
How old are you anyways?
sorry dude, she doesnt feel the same way
im in the same sitatuion
this has gone on since last year
this year, i have hinted to her twice that i wanted a relationship and she just responds with lame jokes
i even asked to go do something together with me and she just responded with some joke
i like her but if she can't be serious when I am, then I'll might get turned offNeed some dating advice? help. im new at this?
maybe shes not intrested in you but just likes to flirt some girls are like that you know don't waste your time dude.Need some dating advice? help. im new at this?
well its one of two things. One. She likes you but shes nervous and maybe she wants you to ask her in a more endearing way. Two. This one is more likely, she thinks of you as a friend and she doesnt realize her flirting, which most young teens dont (14-16), and when you ask her out she doesnt want to hurt your feelings so she responds with a light-hearted joke. sorry dude, but thats the way it seems...
u dont tell a girl you want a relationship....u ask her out to do something....the relationship comment may have ruined a few things...
if she keeps jokein she might not like you sweetie
best of luck xx
How old are you anyways?
sorry dude, she doesnt feel the same way
im in the same sitatuion
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