Need advice, help please....?

my boyfriend ended our relationship 2 months ago over a fight about spending time together. i work nights and he had to work alot of mornings for about a couple of months. we live together and now im living with him as a room mate. i would move out but i need to save money. i dont have any family to stay with. for two months we have slept in different rooms, dont spend time together or do anything intimate. now he wants to start spending time together but keeps telling me he needs time to think if he wants to renew the relationship. im not sure if i should move out or spend the time with him and try to fix the relationship. we have both cooled off and were more civil twords one another and can live together just fine. i love him alot but he has hurt me alot. we have been together 8 years which is harder. im not sure what to do. is it fair to give him time to think and start spending time with him? do i play hard to get? grrrr.... any advice?Need advice, help please....?
Hello Tish,





Eight years is a very long time, Tish, and you have invested much of the prime of your life with this man. After this history, you are the only one who knows whether or not you think you can trust him again.





If after all this time, he has to ';think if he wants to renew the relationship';... well... it doesn't sound all that promising and certainly not very flattering. If he's too proud to acknowledge his part in the separation, then he hasn't changed very much from the man who fought with you.





Ask yourself (ask your for your gut feeling) if you want to place yourself in a situation which may or may not turn out to be positive? Do you want to add more years to this relationship without knowing you are valuable to him? Would you want to have a child with a man who wouldn't be happy to make a commitment to you?





I think, if I were in your shoes, that I would tell him that you'd prefer to remain platonic roommates; the relationship works better as friends rather than as lovers.





I'd also start dating again. %26lt;smile%26gt; But that's just me. You have to do what you think is best for you. Your gut knows.





Best wishes,


TaraNeed advice, help please....?
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